Your essay is interesting as it applies a tad to my life as a magazine photographer and writer. I dabble extensively in taking erotic photographs of women. When I am communicating with them I used less agressive terms as, “Would you pose for me undraped?”
In my photo classes (now I am retired) I used to teach a very popular class called the Contemporary Portrait Nude. In it, depending on the day I was doing and how I was feeling I might start with our model with nothing on. On other days we started a slow strip of five images from all to nothing. I liked to put my male students on the spot by having them enter my class and then I would have the male model appear with nothing on.
With those subjects that cajole to pose for me I always ask them (this makes them relax), “Do you plunge immediately into a cold swimming pool or do you painfully ease yourself in, inch by inch?”
There is that wonderful scene in the film A Man Who Would be King where Saeed Jaffrey (his role is that of a former sargeant in the Imperial British Army) facing sure death as the bad guys are on the other side of the hanging bridge decides to run in that direction with a war cry and nothing more.